This article from TheMedGuru.com states that Big Handsome Males, or really, “obese” men are less likely to have Premature Ejaculation. A snippet, emphasis mine.

Women may swoon over six pack gym jocks, but unbelievingly they might opt for ‘fatter men’ than fitter ones when it comes to fulfilling the act in bed, claims a new study.

According to researchers from Erciyes University in Turkey, chubby men are virtually high on sexual performances making a sex session last to an average of 7.3 minutes as compared to slim lovers who are likely to leave women less than satisfied in bed with average of just 1.8 minutes, the Daily Express reported.

Fat men may have extra kilos hanging around their ‘love handles,’ but scientists believe that they have an advantage of being less likely to suffer from premature ejaculation.

The Big secret
The study, published in the ‘International Journal of Impotence Research,’ revealed that obese men possess higher levels of female sex hormone ‘oestrogen’ which disrupts the balance of neurotransmitter chemicals in the brain that control ejaculation. In contrast, men afflicted by premature ejaculation have lower levels of the hormone. More than a quarter of British men are believed to be suffering from this problem. Interestingly, these sufferers are more likely to be lean and trim, said the researchers.

Study details
The team of researchers recorded the body mass index (BMI) of more than 100 men with premature ejaculation problems over a span of one year. They, then compared the results with men who did not have premature ejaculation. It was noted that men with this condition had much lower BMI scores on average than their bulky counterparts. Only eight percent of premature ejaculation sufferers were identified as obese. “We found that premature ejaculators were leaner,” the report stated.

The fatty men may be heaving a sigh of relief, but the fitter ones are not ready to accept the research.

MollyRen, who operates her own blog called Stuffies, and comments on this blog, was recently interviewed for Part II on a series on Feederism. (Not to toot our own horn, but Feedee World was quoted in Part I….). I highly recommend reading the interview if you haven’t already. Below is a snippet, emphasis mine:

What is feederism?

Feederism is the reason gluttony is one of the Seven Deadly Sins. (laughs) Though people express it in many different ways, most of feeders agree that food is sensual; eating or watching others eat is erotic, and that fat or distended bellies and bodies are hot.

What’s your take on food and sex? Both are such pleasure outlets.

And yet, I don’t think many people naturally think to put them together? One of the things I got out of reading Kate Harding’s blog is the weird relationship even healthy people have with food, in that some foods are moral or immoral, and I think that keeps them from being paired sometimes (and might be the whole reason gluttony is a fetish). There was an eating scene in Queer as Folk that was a big, “Oh!” moment for me: Wow, other people think food can be hot, too!

As a female Feeder, Molly is a very unique position to comment and discuss Feederism with the larger community. She is also very open and active in the Kink subculture, working to make the world a little more acceptable to our own sexual fetish such as her volunteerism with the Kink4All Sexuality Unconference . Molly truly deserves a round of applause for all her work. :D

A lot of people into feederism cite this cartoon as something that stuck in their minds from when they saw it as a child. Even if it wasn’t around when you were growing up, if you are into feederism you likely have seen the 1937 Warner Brothers cartoon Pigs Is Pigs (and if you still haven’t, today is your lucky day).

As it states on the wikipedia page, Pigs Is Pigs has been the inspiration for other cartoons. Most recently (I believe, though it really isn’t terribly recent), The Simpsons used the forcefeeding concept from Pigs Is Pigs in one of their halloween episodes.

This may be where some of us get the fantasy of being fed against our will. Those machines do look neat… ;)

BIG NEWS, apparently there is a new play coming to Off Broadway that deals exclusively with a Feederist couple. The play is called Feeder: A Love Story, and will be presented by the terraNOVA collective from March 6th to the 26th in New York City. Tickets are $20 or $15 for students and seniors.

Here is a snippet from the official news release

FEEDER: A LOVE STORY follows the relationship of Jesse and Noel. Like thousands of other couples, they met online, fell in love, and got married. When Noel and Jesse delve into the fringe lifestyle of feederism they open themselves up to an extraordinary world of passion, love and food. But what happens when one partner outgrows the other?

Apparently, some people over at Dims was involved as experts (or some such), and the play even cites Dims as where the fictional Feederism couple meet. LOL. Does Dims even allow that to happen?! In any event, the script reading from 3 years ago makes it sound awful. There is a subplot where a Daytime talk show host pays for the Feedee’s WLS and things go downhill from there. Still, I’m tempted to go and see the play live myself. Anyone want to join me for a day trip to New York?

I was in FF chat the other night and started up a conversation with an old friend of mine. We had talked quite a bit a few years ago, but since I hadn’t seen him on FF recently, our friendship had fallen to the wayside. He asked me what was new. I responded that I’m working on my Undergrad Degree again. I asked him what was new with him.

His response? “I just got my PhD in Geology and I’m applying for professorships at a few universities.” (I’m paraphrasing here)

WOW.

I’m continually surprised at how educated, intelligent, and yes, how successful members of our community can be. If you remember, I dated a practicing doctor with a DO. And who love to rub my belly. A good Feeder friend has a PhD in Astrophysics (and constantly tells me to eat cereal).  A certain admin on FantasyFeeder has a PhD in Literature from Stanford. And I can’t forget, the Feeder friend who restores century old musical instruments, is a composer, and the #1 specialist for his musical genre. The Feeder working on his MBA, the several Feedee nurses I know of, the other Feeder doctors, the artists, the chefs, the pharmacist, the computer specialists (like Hiccupx!), and or the dozens and dozens of FF users, who like me, are studying in college.

It’s a bit surprising how damn educated we are, or how hard we work. But I really shouldn’t be surprised. We are people, regardless of our sexual orientation. The plethora of Feederists in medical professions is breathtaking, because it flies right in the face of our assumptions of health and those in the health field. I know for a fact I would go more often to a Feeder doctor then my current one.

Take the time to talk to your fellow Feederists and see what they do for a living. It’s a nice dose of reality to stop and realize how damn normal we are. And perhaps, muse if there is some strange connection between artistic and intellectual endeavors and our sexuality. I know I have.

Hi everyone,

A few months ago I created a Feederism survey on SurveyMonkey.com. You can access the survey here.

I have about 25 responses so far, but I would love for more people to fill it out. It’s 0nly 10 questions, but it’s pretty in depth. If you could spare 5 minutes, it would be greatly appreciated.

In a month or 2, I will be upgrading my account on Survey Monkey, and will be sharing the conclusions. I can tell you already, the answers are fascinating. :)

Peace, Amanda

I’m not a member of Fantasy Feeder, and while I haven’t visited the site in forever and a day, I can still read the forums without an account. Having said that, something has been brought to my attention and I think that this is the perfect medium to address it.

There are countless websites devoted to the diet. Not just the Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig sponsored ones either. Stick weight loss forum into google and there’s sure to be a plethora of people waiting and willing to “fight the good fight” with you. Sure, all of these people and their respective sites or forums will accept the fat you – as long as you are the right kind of fat. The fat that hates being fat and would sell your soul to be skinny. These people might advertise that they accept members of all shapes and sizes and indeed your membership might be welcomed BUT, but, they only tolerate one body type and therefore one mindset as being the correct body type and mindset. The skinny one. This of course is fine – for a diet site. The idea of posting a weight gain thread on a diet site is absolutely absurd and I doubt such a thing has ever been done.

There are also plenty of Health at Any Size (henceforth referred to as HAES) websites. I particularly enjoy these websites because the prime objective of such sites are to inform people of proper health and burst through urban legends and myths. Obviously anyone of any size is accepted at these sites and will be welcomed with open arms without any judgment. But the thing about HAES websites is that weight loss or weight gain threads don’t really belong here either.

Lets talk about FA/BBW sites. I can’t even tell you what belongs here other than things pertaining to people who are fat. I’ve seen pretty much any topic you can think of discussed on these sites, pro and anti weight loss.

And then you have Fantasy Feeder (FF). This is a website that is definitely in it’s own classification as it deals pretty exclusively with feederism and the idea of weight gain. Obviously people of all shapes and sizes are accepted because lets face it, feederism isn’t only about fat people getting fatter. Plenty of thin people lust after a growing figure, fantasize about their own figure growing or are active participants in a feederism relationship. The idea is that all people are accepted and despite a few idiot pervs telling some beautiful, but skinny, female feeders that they need to get fatter, the site on a whole has been pretty accepting of any size. Even when the 300+ crowd was becoming diluted with mere chubby girls crying about how fat they were. A few guys I knew complained, but for the most part a pretty face is a pretty face whether it’s 150 pounds or 550 pounds. Again there have been growing pains so to speak, but I’ve never faced a problem with the size tolerance of the people on the site. At least nothing major.

So we can agree that weight gain threads wouldn’t really belong on a diet forum or a HAES forum. We can agree that weight gain threads might occasionally belong on an FA/BBW site.

So why, OH WHY do diet threads have any place on FF? I can understand someone posting a thread that debunks diets and perhaps points out that dieting might not be as healthy as we once were lead to believe. I can understand that. I can understand a site like FF wanting to add a Fat Liberation section devoted to fighting for the rights of fat people. But I can’t understand why any member on FF would ever get behind dieting.*  or why any of those members would hide behind Fat Liberation as a claim that the people of FF must accept the posts they make on their pro diet views. Fat Liberation has nothing to do with the acceptance of dieting as an acceptable or healthy lifestyle. Bold claim, I know. But Fat Liberation is all about breaking through the social pressure of this crazy notion that only thin is acceptable. If you want to lose weight and are not a Fat Admirer in your gender of sexual preference, then why even be on a feederism related site? Scratch that. If you are not a feedee, a foodee or and FA, then seriously why are you on FF? There are plenty of FA/BBW sites in which your opinions would be muchly appreciated. There are plenty of diet sites that would love to have you amongst their ranks, but why OH WHY are you on a feederism site if you are not interested in weight gain in some way, shape, or form ? I don’t care if it’s all a fantasy and you are skinny as a rail. I don’t care if it’s reality and you’re larger than life. If your position on fat is that fat is unhealthy then WHY ARE YOU ON A FEEDERISM SITE? Moreover why is it your business to express “concern” for the other fat people on the site and their idea of what is healthy? I as a fat person do not want to create excuses for myself. I have been fat for my entire life as anyone who’s taken the time to read my first blog will already know. The only way I lost any weight at all was by exercising like Rocky and eating 1000 calories a day. What I didn’t mention is that during that time my once perfect blood pressure rose drastically and I was battling a mild depression during my “skinny” phase. It took almost 23 hours of hard aerobic exercise and weight training per week to lose any weight, as I found simply slashing calories didn’t do a damn thing. I obviously eventually caved into my feederism desires and purposely gained even more weight than where I started at. But I’ll tell you this – March of last year I was laid off from my job and my finances became extremely meager. However living off of rice, canned veggies, plain pasta and the occasional egg on toast or baked chicken breast did not result in extreme weight loss. At the time of being let go I was a little over 320. After 2 months I had dropped down to 297 and then nothing. 5 more months of nothing. I lost no weight even if my caloric intake dropped drastically.

Contrary to popular belief, Fat Liberation does not mean that it’s ok to make blanket statements like “Lets just all admit it guys, sure maybe a SLIM margin of fatties are genetically that way but 99% of us are fat because we gorge on buckets of chocolate and never exercise.” It’s statements like THAT which make people want to defend themselves. Gorging on chocolate is nothing to be ashamed of. Hell, I never exercise and it’s nothing I hide. But some of us, even on Fantasy Feeder WERE ALWAYS NATURALLY FAT EVEN WHEN EXERCISED AND ATE LIKE AVERAGE SIZED PEOPLE. I’m not fat because I gorge on buckets of chocolate. In fact I haven’t ever gorged on buckets of anything. Sure I’m fat – but it’s not what I eat that is the issue. It’s my lack of exercise. Not that it even matters. On a typical day I eat about the same if not less than my 170 pound boyfriend. On a very happy feedee day (which is not every day) I might eat double that amount. I also refrain from any type of fast food except of the Panera Variety.

Fact of the matter is, when you say “Lets just admit we’re all lazy people who just beach ourselves on the couch and eat bon bons and do nothing all day” you are fat shaming me and many others and it is fucking offensive. Just because I am a feedee does not mean I don’t watch out for my health, eat healthy food and take care of myself. I have been fat by design since I was 3 years old. My parents tried to fix it, I’ve tried to fix it and I am seriously done trying to fix something that isn’t even a problem for me. If I didn’t overeat and exercise I’d still be over weight. I know this for a fact because when I did exercise and eat like a bird, I was still considered overweight. Guess what, even if I was the “stereotypical” fat person that often gets too much television air time; the woman who eats McDonalds all day every day, get over it. I still wouldn’t be unhealthy because I was fat. That’s like saying people with yellow teeth will get lung cancer. Not all yellow teeth are signs of smoking just like all fat people are not walking billboards for a fast food laden lifestyle. So now the person behind the posts I am upset about made a statement that fat people should not have to justify their fatness. Likewise I believe the same and yet here I am justifying my fatness because said person was making broad generalizations about fat people. See that point flying overhead? Catch it and get the net. Fat people should never be expected to accept the illegitimate claim that fat is unhealthy. By saying that it is you automatically force the healthy fatties out there to take a stand. That in itself defeats the purpose of Fat Liberation. Fat Liberation is not claiming that people who eat nothing but Doritos and Mountain Dew are amazing and that all fat people are healthy. It is, however, not demonizing people just because of the way they decide to treat their own bodies, healthy or otherwise. It’s not telling someone they are in denial because they think they are fat and healthy. You hear that I am a feedee and automatically assume that I’m just camped out at KFC everyday or spending my nights sitting in front of the fridge stuffing my face with nothing but cake and will continue to do so until my heart gives out and GUESS WHAT even if I did do that you still have no right to shame me and I still have every right to be fat and not justify my fatness. I’m sure that’s a huge disappointment and you’ll keep on forcing the notion that I’m unhealthy and therefore a bad person and you have every right to do so – JUST DON’T DO IT IN A FORUM DEDICATED TO GETTING FATTER.

Which brings us to the important issue at hand, this website isn’t about Fat Acceptance. Now, without Fat Acceptance feederism will have a harder time flourishing. People will be less likely to give in to their desires for fear of judgment and humiliation. So while FF stands in support of the Fat Liberation movement, it does in no way represent it. So being that it’s not a website about Fat Acceptance and more broad than that, Size Acceptance, why would it be appropriate to make an adamant pro diet post in a thread about articles debunking diet myths on site dedicated solely to those who want to take their chances with the health risks and gain weight? Because it is most definitely not in the spirit of the site and is pretty fucking offensive for the reasons aforementioned.

I’d never join a diet site, moreover I’d never join a diet site and post about how wonderful gaining weight is and how skinny people just don’t have the determination and patience to gain weight. I’d also never join a body building fetish site (FF IS a sexual based site) nor would I make posts on that site about the realities of body building females and etc. So let’s keep pro-dieting posts (that accomplish pretty much just that) where they belong.

* Dieting is not the same thing as healthy living FYI. I can understand someone getting behind healthy living and being on FF. There are plenty of articles on Junk Food science and many other trustworthy resources available on the interwebs that I’m too lazy/busy to look up, that will definitely paint the two as completely different animals.

I know the programming on TLC is somewhat sensational, and this is no exception. Strange Sex is a show about sexual fetishes as well as sexual disfunctions. I’ll admit that I’ve never seen a full episode, but I saw a preview for the season finale which features feederism as explained by the infamous Donna Simpson. I wish I could have seen the full episode, but I can predict that it made feederism look terrible as it’s what the media tends to do.

Now, I have nothing personal against Donna Simpson. I’ve never really talked to her, though she is a member of FF. I have written about her in the past, though (when she first broadcast to the media that she wanted to be the fattest woman alive). To prevent save me some time and effort, I shall just quote a paragraph from the past.

“The one thing that I believe the media is disregarding is the fact that not all of the people within this community are on the same level as Donna. Despite having a common interest, we have a very diverse community. Some of us are fat, but not gaining. Some of us are gaining, but have a set limit. Some of us want to be immobile. The media is only seeing the more extreme part of the spectrum.”

If the show is trying to do a well-balanced piece on feederism (unlikely, because they likely just want to shock the viewers), they should have looked for people into feederism other than the most public figure, and the most extreme figure.

We are NOT all the same, so don’t judge us by one person.

Thank you to all who submitted ideas for a blog post. I will be writing one up on the chosen topic shortly. It figures that as soon as someone gives me an idea to write I come up with my own, though it’s not really an idea.

At one point, though I don’t believe it was mentioned here, Amanda and I talked about the days that we decided that we wanted to gain weight.  We then threw around the idea of a “feedeeversary” which could be a celebration of the day a feedee decided to start getting fat(ter). This was a long time ago, and I may not remember many details, but I like the idea of a feedeeversary. For me, it’s a way to celebrate the development of a very large (no pun intended) part of my sexuality.

I’ve had a hard time remembering the exact date when I decided to gain weight, but I’ve decided on September 2nd, 2009. It makes the most sense because it is when I started college and finally had the freedom to eat what I wanted without being under a parent’s supervision. I do notice now that it is 19 days past my feedeeversary, but a belated celebration is better than none at all!

HAPPY (BELATED) FEEDEEVERSARY!

Since I’ve been involved for two years, it made sense to get two cupcakes. Perhaps each year I’ll get one more to match how long I’ve been gaining weight. Maybe a few years later I’ll graduate to a cake! Haha!

To all of the feedees out there I ask what your feedeeversary is. If you don’t have a clue when you started, I suggest you pick a date to celebrate this experience!

I have my suspicions about this email from “Dr. Drew.” When we get emails like this at Feedee World, we’re almost always convinced that they are fake, or that they are some type of television show/other media format that is going to demonize us much like the rest of society does. Though my fellow bloggers may think it’s real or just be a bit skeptical, I am extremely skeptical. However, if it IS genuine and Dr. Drew DOES want to talk to us, then I would like to give him a piece of my mind.

I know a bit about addiction. I may not have letters behind my name (yet), but I am still quite knowledgeable, if I do say so myself.  I have done a little reading into Dr. Drew’s beliefs on addiction in general, and though he makes some decent points, I cannot say I agree with him. I could only imagine what he’d have to say about feedees. 

Many people who look at feederism from the outside, especially at the feedees, think that we are just food addicts that are in denial or that we have a severe eating disorder. It is my belief that most, if not all feedees, are not food addicts at all.

By my claim, I am not suggesting that binge eating disorder (BED) does not exist; it does, and it can be as harmful as the other, more commonly known eating disorders. Here are some of the DSM-IV-TR criteria for BED, and highlighted are the points that do not fit with being a feedee:

• Recurrent episodes of binge eating, including eating an abnormally large amount of food and feeling a lack of control over eating
• Binge eating that’s associated with at least three of these factors: eating rapidly; eating until you’re uncomfortably full; eating large amounts when you’re not hungry; eating alone out of embarrassment; or feeling disgusted, depressed or guilty after eating
• Concern about your binge eating
• Binge eating occurs at least twice a week for at least six months
• Binge eating isn’t associated with inappropriate methods to compensate for overeating, such as self-induced vomiting

Feedees know what they are eating, and do have control over when they stop even when with a feeder (again, almost all feeders are non-abusive). Many feedees I know don’t eat alone, and enjoy eating wherever; there is no shame for them, and nor should there be any. Most feedees do not experience depression or guilt after a stuffing, and it generates no real concern. Some feedees will not stuff themselves often; I am an example of this. I do not binge twice a week for six months or more. It is more of a once and a while thing for me, and that is normal even among those who are not feedees. The way I eat and the amount I eat does not interfere with my life. Addictions typically hinder the person socially or occupationally. People with BED often hate their bodies, but have a compulsion to keep eating regardless. I do not hate my body; many of my fellow feedees do not hate their bodies.

If I hated my body, I would not be doing this. I do not obsess over food; I just eat what I like. I like me, and also happen to like my fat. We’re not sick and twisted; we just like what we like. We are all on Earth for such a short time; we might as well enjoy ourselves. And if that means ordering an extra dessert once and a while, so be it.

My name is Mina. Yes, I am a feedee. No, I am not an addict.